Testament of Youth (2014)
[Vera Brittain to the crowd at a debate against how to punish Germany for the war]
Our grief is the grief of hundreds and thousands of German women and men. I speak to those of us who were left behind. The mothers, sister, women, we sent our men to war. I fought my father to let my brother go. Because we think it's the right thing, the honourable thing. But all I can do is stand here and ask you, is it? Was I right? Can I find the courage to accept there might be another way? Perhaps their deaths have meaning only if we stand together now and say, "No!" No to killing. No to war. No to the endless cycle of revenge. I say no more of it.
Love's Executioner: & Other Tales of Psychotherapy (1989)
Irvin D. Yalom
Chapter 1: Love’s Executioner
But suppose it was never a shared experience! Supposed the two people had widely different experiences. And suppose one of them had mistakenly thought her experience was the same as his?